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Oh Sis, You’re Pregnant!
The Ultimate Guide to Black Pregnancy & Motherhood
By: Shanicia Boswell
OMG, it feels so good to be back! LOL! I have missed blogging and you guys so much! As many of you know, I just had a baby, yay me, LOL. So I took most of last year off to focus on my pregnancy and taking care of my beautiful baby boy. And though I wouldn’t change anything about it, lawd knows I missed reading, reviewing, and drinking!
So, you’ll notice that there will be more book reviews than wine reviews in the first few months. I am breastfeeding currently, and though I know I can drink, I don’t want the pressure of needing to get a review to you guys, LOL. So, wine reviews will resume in June! Remember, I am always on the lookout for suggestions, so even if I’m not drinking them now, I look forward to drinking them in the future.
Now…for the reason you guys are here…my review!!
So, I won’t lie. I had absolutely no intentions of reviewing this book when I first read it. It was because it wasn’t a fictional book, and that’s predominantly what my book reviews are based upon. But then I realized how helpful and inspiring this book was for me, so why not share that with others.
Let me start by saying when we started the steps of getting pregnant, I had no intentions of reading another pregnancy book. You know, the super thick ones filled with all these scientific words that you don’t understand. They’re long and tedious and so un-relatable. I had that book with my first pregnancy, and 12 years later, I wasn’t looking forward to an “updated” version of it at all.
Sure enough, my OB recommended it, and my eyes couldn’t have rolled hard enough. But the birthing gods were on my side. It just so happened that a woman posted this particular book in a group I’m a part of on Facebook. I immediately screenshot it because I figured if I was going to read anything about being pregnant, this was the book I would look into. And I am so glad I looked into it.
Boswell doesn’t just cover the basics of your pregnancy, how it happens, and the changes your body goes through. She covers the mental state you face before and after pregnancy. The way institutional racism black women face when pregnant. And the importance of establishing your “village.” That and so much more.
Oh Sis, You’re Pregnant is the book I wish I had 13 years ago when I was pregnant with my firstborn. Like me, the author was in her early 20s when she found out she was pregnant and went through all the fears and struggles most women do at that age. Boswell creates a safe space within her pages, addressing all the apprehensions we face as black women and the stereotypes.
Two of my top favorite discussions in this book is the importance of a doula. I had heard of them before but never appreciated what they do. It wasn’t until I read this book that I realized how badly I wanted one while I was pregnant with my second son. Sidebar, I didn’t get one, but best believe if there’s a third baby, a doula is nonnegotiable.
My second favorite topic is about black women and breastfeeding. I wasn’t aware that more white women breastfeed their children than African American women. And how more black women are apprehensive about breastfeeding because they are raising kids by themselves and don’t have the support they need. It was also interesting to discover how slavery played a part in black women breastfeeding. Slaves who had recently given birth were forced to feed their owner’s babies, so there was barely anything to give by the time they made it to their own babies.
Boswell connects all the emotional and psychological trauma black women have endured during pregnancy and makes all of the current generational curses we’re trying to break make sense.
I wish I could further detail how inspiring and helpful this book was for me, but then we’d be here all day! LOL. Just trust me, this is a book worth looking into, even if you’re not currently pregnant. There are many good references and quotes; it’s just an overall uplifting experience.
If you’ve read this book, let me know what you think. Read a pregnancy book by a black author that moved you? Drop the title down below!